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revelations

as we head in that direction, the summers are starting to come back to me.

in 2006, i packed up my trumpet and headed off to a performing arts camp in the Adirondacks. it was an extremely different atmosphere from the reform Jewish sleepaway camp I’d attended for five years prior. the days were divided up into art periods. rock band in the morning, musical theater in the afternoon. lunch and some fishing somewhere in the middle. it should’ve been paradise. but for the first couple weeks, i barely went to any activities. instead, i sat by the lake and cried into an old copy of The Andromeda Strain, the summer reading assignment for my upcoming biology class. i was starting high school in the fall.

i did go to trumpet lessons with Nick, the brass instructor. one day we sat inside his tiny hut, literally a square shack covered in painted messages from past campers with their names and dates, when he told me that he wanted me to tell him a story.

i laughed in his face. i’d had imaginative teachers before, i thought i knew what this was. Nick looked at the piece of music in front of us, the solo i would play for all of the parents in a couple weeks, and told me to imagine the story behind it. the rises and falls in the drama within each part, each phrase, each measure. “it’s all about the quiet intensity,” he said. “and the next time you see me, i wanna hear the story you’re going to tell.”

camp flew by after that. so fast, even, that i never did tell Nick a story. i was too busy playing in pit orchestras for musicals or jumping on stage for ska band performances or god forbid going on the boat out at the lake. i was too busy learning how to be a stupid fourteen year old.

from what i know via Facebook, Nick is now married to the same girlfriend he’d had at camp, the woodwind instructor, with two children. he’s a band director. i’m sure his students tell many stories of their own.

this particular summer comes back to me mainly because i was stuck. i had no idea what i wanted until it all made sense. all i’ve ever wanted is to tell stories. Nick just had to remind me. and in college i switched my trumpet for a camera, promising USC in all of my admissions essays that i would bring a unique voice to filmmaking, that if they just took a chance on me, a weirdo musician from south Florida, i would prove to them i could do it.

they said yes. and now three years later, i’ve made some movies. i learned how to shoot coverage, light a scene with a key, a fill, and a backlight. hold a boom. cut on Avid, edit on ProTools. say “action.” i can do these things.

but maybe, just maybe, they take something away. sure, there’s no way my films can exist they way they do without them, but they distract me from the core, from just me, the way i could just sing through my trumpet and (hopefully) tell a fucking fantastic story, without anything else. when i take away the cameras, the lights, the equipment, it’s just my words. or my voice on the radio. or a performance on stage. and that, i’ve learned, is what gets me going. it’s never about “getting the shot.” ever.

so while i go to film school, and will graduate with a film degree, and do enjoy watching and making films, i can’t call myself a filmmaker. no, i’m more about a quiet intensity. i tell stories, like this one.

 

come gather ’round people

things feel different, i think.

or maybe i’m telling myself they do.

but either way, as the school year comes to a close, i am finally starting to feel that spark again. that excitement for the new chapter of the summer, where i have absolutely nothing and yet so many things planned at the same time, where productivity and extreme laziness will come together in the best ways. the last summer before summer never really exists again.

yes, there are exciting things on the horizon. i want to consume everything. road trips, books, music, movies, food, beautiful people, writing, lounging, working, most of all thinking. wondering. feeling. yes, feeling. 

funny how this post should come after a few of the most exhausting days of the year thus far. but now that they’re over, i feel free and warm and even okay.

okay.

this is so incredibly cheesy. i don’t care. i wish everyone i care about could feel this right now, and i could package some of my optimism and hand it to them.

we can do it, friends. i know we can.

well i don’t know, but i’ll pretend i do.

hang on. flow of the universe is moving fast.

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inner thoughts of an ex-greaser

Written and workshopped as part of Tent: Comedy on March 20th, 2013. 

The second time I saw the movie Grease I was sitting on the rec room floor at Camp Bluestar, trying to see over David Ziffler’s jewfro. Our very own camp production of Grease was premiering the next week, and we’d requested to watch the film so we could copy the actors exactly and bring nothing new to the work. I was eleven years old from Cabin S16 in the pioneer girl unit. My brother Jay was sixteen and the most popular boy in teen village. He was cast in the role of Sonny. I was issued a brown leather jacket and cast as “Greaser #5.”

In the first act of the film, Olivia Newton John leaves Frenchie’s house in her nightgown to sing “Hopelessly Devoted to You,” the least memorable song of the entire film. She looks down into a kiddie pool starring John Travolta’s beautiful 1978 reflection and belts in a cute Australian kind of way: “But now, there’s nowhere to hide, since you’ve pushed my love aside, I’m out of my head, hopelessly devoted to you.” Meanwhile, Rizzo puts on some hot pants and climbs down the side of the house to park with Kenickie, the less hot version of John Travolta.

The sixth time I saw the movie Grease I was sitting in the Hollywood Bowl with thousands of people singing along next to me. And even though the lyrics to “Hopelessly Devoted to You” came up on the screen, just like all the other songs, only half the crowd sang along. And by the sixth time watching the film, I got it. Musically, it’s no “Summer Nights” or “You’re the One that I Want.” But also, it clicked: who wants to be hopelessly devoted to someone anymore. It’s possibly the worst feeling. Someone needed to tell Sandy to get her shit together.

I felt sad for her. Really? You’re hopelessly devoted to a meathead. I would’ve understood drugs, or alcohol, or sex even. Hopelessly devoted to crack. Hopelessly devoted to cheeseburgers. But you? Rockin’ and rollin’ Danny Zuko. Bleh.

In one of the less Teen Angel-y sub-plots of Grease, Rizzo thinks she’s pregnant and takes a moment to herself to sing “There Are Worst Things I Could Do.” I can recall my mother labeling this song as the ballad “Stockard Channing couldn’t sing” and hesitating to admit I loved it more than anything else in the film. But it’s a real moment in an otherwise purposefully campy musical that has sing-alongs at the Hollywood Bowl. Rizzo admits there’s a problem here. She’s afraid to cry in front of Kenickie, to be herself, and that’s fucked up. She has more in common with Sandy than she thought, but at least she’s willing to recognize that she’s treated like trash and the worst thing she could do is be a real person with thoughts and feeling-y feelings.

Sandy decides to combat her hopeless devotion by essentially becoming the exterior of Rizzo; she puts on hot leather pants, lights up a cigarette, and asks Danny to “tell her about it, stud.” I tried a lesser version of this back at camp by letting the girls in my cabin poke mascara into my eyeballs and dress me in their girly clothes for the big coed dance with the pioneer boys. I certainly didn’t ask any of them to “tell me about it” or say anything to them at all.

I think what Grease forgot to show me was that I was perfectly happy as Greaser #5. I loved my leather jacket. I loved being a T-bird. Life didn’t require that I be hopelessly devoted to anyone. Don’t get me wrong. Grease is a great part of my childhood and will epically always be “the word.” But the magic is gone. I’ll jump back on the Grease lightin’ train when Sandy gets her priorities in order. But hey, there are worse things.

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Coming Soon: The Dreamerz

Some people (okay, my friends/family/classmates) have been wondering if I’ve been working on anything this semester, and indeed I have!

After making Jew…ish about a year ago and then dabbling in radio stories, I found I really liked the documentary format and wanted to try again. So I enrolled in USC’s only undergraduate doc course and grabbed the best writer I know, Lily Min, to come along for the ride.

She’s always been really interested in dreams and lucid dreaming in particular. So we decided to tackle the subject and find ourselves some lucid dreamers. I won’t give much else away, except you can expect us being awkward on screen, trippy animation, janky stop motion, and the best clay dinosaurs you’ve ever seen. It is oh so fun in the editing lab indeed.

Stay tuned, dreamerz.

 

the tv version of myself

sometimes it’s fun to think about what i’d look like on tv, you know, like if you took my existence and tailored it for mass consumption, whatever that means. if suddenly “Becca” was a character on a one-hour drama, or maybe one of those dramedies on Showtime, and “Becca” got to be larger than life but still grounded in human storytelling.

what would we be watching? who would we be watching? would she be better?

i think she’d be played by someone with that “real” kind of look, a curvy girl, where they could get away with as little makeup as possible, and in the episode where she tries to change herself the other characters say gosh darnit no Becca, i like your natural beauty, just the way you are. 

tv me would have the best soundtrack play to all of the biggest moments on the show, some indie guitar riff as she loses the love of her life in a horrible car accident and people go out the next day and look for this amazing, heartbreaking song, oh my gosh the song! the song where Becca cried and cried in the parking lot and everything was in slow motion and what a great tv moment, didn’t you see?

she’d be a surgeon or a vampire slayer or something completely interesting in every single way, the rebellious one or the underdog the audience never saw coming. holy shit what a twist! it was Becca all along!

she’d get so much awesome amounts of sleep and yet always look slightly tired in an endearing kind of way, like oh man, rough night? no, no– just up late saving lives and i lost track of time. probably just look tired from copious amounts of working out this morning, you know how it is.

in the first season finale she’d kiss you good and proper, and the fans would breathe a sigh of relief and say finally and they’d have to wait all summer to see if hell broke loose.

she’d be down for anything at anytime, including all the things real me is afraid of, she would just do them no questions asked and maybe her character would grow that week, even just a little bit, and the audience would learn something about life and say thanks tv Becca, you really inspired me to be a great person today. 

flow

i believe in the flow of the universe.

and i sound like a complete caricature of myself when i say this, because i am a white girl with dreadlocks and half-lidded eyes, but this is the one true thing i believe and i’ll keep saying it for as long as it feels right.

because flow takes me where i’m supposed to go, whether i like it or not. it took me to California, where i fell in love with smoggy air and mountains and the most beautiful people i’ve ever met. flow brought me to a school where i could try and sometimes fail, but most importantly try. sometimes it crushed me, in slow motion or some kind of warp speed where i wasn’t fast enough to keep up. it crushed my friends and my family, too, more than i could ever imagine. i hated it then, it made me angry and bitter.

but that’s the beauty of flow. you have to trust it. it crushes for a reason, i think, to show you something or just say hey you can get through this or tell you who you really love in the world, even if it’s not going to work out the way you want it to. flow might be god, it might be a way of not dealing, it might be total bullshit.

i like it, though. it’s simple.

these are the places i’ve cried

a friend recently told me it’s good for you to cry, biologically, like you’re a weird person if you don’t cry, and so i thought well shucks, i rarely ever cry, and i tried to remember myself crying and came up with these memories:

tae kwon do

somehow i was a tae kwon do star as a kid. i started when i was 5, and so by the time i was 10 i had a black belt (a deputy black belt, they called it) and had all these different uniforms and sparring gear and gosh, really, it was just way too much for a 10 year old to be handling at times. an appropriately aged teen black belt girl used to pick me up from elementary school and drive me to class, and my mom would pick me up at the gym after work. i remember one class, the instructor told me my forms looked like “shit” and i excused myself to go hyperventilate outside. my mom finally arrived to find a million tae kwon do moms consoling me as i held snotty paper towels to my face. somehow i kept going back.

finally, as my mom parked the car at the gym for a weekend class, i lost it again. “you don’t want to do this anymore,” she said for me. and i convulsed into more tears.

my high school library

every summer during high school i spent a week teaching little kids music in our library. there were only so many times we could rehearse with them, and when we’d get tired, our plan was to put on Fantasia 2000. i stood in the back, watching the Donald Duck Noah’s ark sequence set to “Pomp and Circumstance” behind a room full of kindergartners. i watched as Donald thought he lost Daisy in the flood but really Daisy was on the ark the entire time and then when THEY FOUND EACH OTHER and tears ensued. it was weird.

AIM

i was in 6th grade chatting with my BFF on AOL Instant Messenger. she typed that she was tired of me and told me to leave her alone. i cried.

the blue ridge mountains

when i was 12, my summer camp forced me to climb a mountain. i cried the entire time. and when i slipped on the way down and hit my head on a rock, i cried some more.

the vagabond motel, los angeles

my parents came to visit me sophomore year. i’d just finished marching in a football game, and it was late, and for some reason i started sobbing in their motel room.

my bed

once i was arguing with a roommate about the saddest song in the world. i thought maybe Eric Clapton’s “Tears in Heaven.” she was thinking about Coldplay’s “The Scientist.” i wrote that choice off until a couple months ago in my bed when Pandora put on “The Scientist” and i immediately proceeded to throw my shoe at the wall and yell “FUCK” at the top of my lungs.

my childhood driveway

my neighbor heard a big THWACK on the concrete. it was my wrist. i’d swerved on my razor scooter and landed wrist first on the sidewalk. definite tears, there. sometime later, i threw a perfect fastball to my brother, and he hit the ball right back into my eye socket. i think i cried more in mourning for my amazing pitch.

my high school music building

every semester of magnet arts high school we had juries, which were supposed to prepare us for the “real world” as artists. each time i’d put on a dress and play something from classical trumpet repertoire in front of the faculty. and even though i got an “A” every time, i would still leave the room in some form of tears. looking back, maybe it was because i was falling out of love with playing the instrument.

there are more, sure, but these stick out in my mind.

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peace pilgrim

i’ve been stuck on this story since it aired on This American Life a couple weeks ago.

the piece interviews a guy named Daryl who decided on an overall life do-over. inspired by a spiritual woman who called herself “Peace Pilgrim” and walked across the country for 28 years, he left his successful playwriting days, donated all of his money, and started walking in Delaware. as the new Peace Pilgrim, Daryl made it three days before collapsing in a hotel lobby.

when i brought the story up to a good friend who follows the show, he called Daryl an idiot. i guess it did sound ridiculous. drop everything. go on a walk for the rest of your life. find peace, or maybe god, or better yet yourself.

but the more Daryl stayed in my mind, it wasn’t ridiculous at all. i was jealous of Daryl. he got the opportunity to hit “reset” and start something completely new, to be Peace Pilgrim, and that was fantastic and exciting and just plain ballsy. despite only living as Peace Pilgrim for three days, Daryl was possibly on to something.

i realized i’m drawn to Daryl, just like i was to the story of Christopher McCandless, or people like Ram Dass. i’m drawn to every son or daughter that ran away in ’67 to drop acid in the Haight. i’m drawn to the pretty Chinese girl who sang for me at the Hare Krishna temple in Culver City, the same mantra over and over again, as if she was affirming over and over again that she had indeed changed. i believed her.

sometimes i imagine myself running off to another life, maybe a simpler one, a life where i get rid of all my fears and just be for once, not in my head but in the moment, because there’s nothing worse than finding yourself three steps behind the moment, you know, like perpetually lost in conversations, too preoccupied with the bad stuff to look up from your hands, or maybe just too scared to make eye contact because eyes are a dead giveaway you’re so lost in the first place.

there’s got to be something better. i’m not saying it’s doing what Daryl tried to do, but maybe it’s our own versions of Peace Pilgrim, whatever works for each person. i don’t think i could ever hit “reset” or “do-over” on my entire life or run away from it, but maybe i could find the strength to start walking, catch up to the moment, and stay there for as long as possible.

that’s what Daryl did, and i don’t think he’s an idiot for trying.

east to west

questions i asked myself on a five hour plane ride from Florida to California:

  • what actually is the best way to lie across three seats?
  • no seriously this is a rare opportunity?
  • if i fall asleep now, will they just wake me up in 20 minutes for a drink?
  • do i even want a drink?
  • when will i ever stop coughing?
  • why didn’t i wear socks?
  • is my coughing annoying everyone around me? am i the crying baby?
  • should i put the Beatles on shuffle?
  • oh god Revolution 9 why did i put it on shuffle?
  • are we there yet?
  • but seriously why Revolution 9 this is such a mind fuck?
  • when can i go back to Israel?
  • did my mom have a point when she said my grandfather’s face is getting older?
  • why does he look the same to me?
  • how old is he anyway i can’t remember?
  • how old are my parents?
  • am i seriously graduating in a year that’s not okay?
  • am i ready to be old?
  • why are some of my Facebook friends married?
  • should i delete some of my Facebook friends?
  • will i actually exercise when i get back to school?
  • will i finally look the way i “should”?
  • are my dreads actually dreading?
  • what am i doing this summer?
  • what am i doing ever?
  • why don’t i take my personal life seriously?
  • where’s my chapstick?
  • why did i ever try online dating?
  • should i try online dating again?
  • why does it feel like i lost you when you’re still right in front of me?
  • how long was i asleep?
  • are we landing?
  • does Los Angeles feel like home?
  • can we use our electronic devices?
  • what time is it–